United With Son

In Oct. 3 morning, I went to Parents by Air. My elder brother and his daughter went to the airport and recieved me. It was a very nice day and my sister Qian of my youngest uncle would get married with the one she loved. There was a big welcoming queque was waing for me at the gate of the yard. Runrun was amange all my relatives and the most outstanding one held by my elder sister Xia.
Long time no see about 8 months, my son threw himself to me and gave me a big hug and kissed my cheek said I missed to death with joy. He can remember almost everything to talked with him before I left him with my parents in TJ. He became taller and a little bit thinner, and is still as active as he used to be. His luaguage skill developed a lot during these 8 month from the Spring Festival.
Qian's marriage is not a willing one of her parents, but she's got pregnant for at least 5 month and it was the third time, of course she aborted the first two. She is the prettest girl in the village, so her parents expected very high for furture. However, she had made them very disappointed.
After the ceremony of my sister's marriage, we planned to go to Shanghai on Oct.5. Runrun was very happy to take the D train and repeated the coming event joyfully all these days.
I had only 4 days for holidays, and it was very busy in NJ construction site. I felt very happy to have my papa and mama with me. But when the holidays came to it termination, I had to pack my package to get ready the way to the work.

Men are from Mars, Women are from the Venus

If you search the title in Google, you will get the result from Wikipedia (the free encyclopedia) that it is one of the series books written by John Gray who is concerning about the communication and emotional needs between the opposite gender.
Men and women are naturally different as if they are beings coming from planets. In contrast, there are some similarities between the sexes against Gary's assertion, or there will be no any platform to communicate.
My wife and I argued about the way to raise our baby. I may want to have fun and play together with him but my wife may concern more about the health and disciplines. There are common ground and also conflicts and sometimes the conflicts are very furious. Tow days ago, we even fight each other. It is said the war will never end.
Recently, I have to move to another city (Zhangjiagang 3-4 hours from Shanghai) to work, it worried me a lot and I even don't know how to arrange the family and especially my 2 year old baby. In such kind of economical weather of Nov. 2008, it seems that we have not too much space to choose a better opportunity. Wife is not easy to work in a industry zone and starts every early each morning to catch the shuttle bus.  It seems so difficult, but there must be a solution and I have think about it tomorrow.

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I give myself a higher target to write articles better in order to give myself more confidence.
How to accomplish it? I find out that imitation may be the right way to go. First of all, I think I had better to have something to follow.
I decided to imitate the articles from the famous websites such as BBC.
There is an article call the King Liar, I will do like this.

When you walk into the door of my apartment in Pudong in the southeast corner of Shanghai map, you're greeted by a man wearing false teeth who claims to be from a nice place call Iron Pot Store.

No, it's not an commercial soap play, but a gathering of my family members taking charge of the task to take care of the next generation.

Parents from across the distances gather to see each other and live with their children and grand child with their own stories, local food habits and downright languages.

The combination style dates back to the 19th century, when Shanghai began to develop after the Opium War in 1864 and forced to open, became a common thing for generations.

One among the mass is about me who was following his job by leaving hometown in Tianjin and then settled in Shanghai and generate the descendant.

As Pudong's decade of development, the story is now played day to day in the little apartment and daily memories.



True story


Nowadays, people travel from all over the county in order to achieve better life, but only a few have been as successful as what they dreamed of to my knowledge.

Some of the few earned big houses, cars, beautiful wife, and even high ranks, taking the glory of the crown which the most dream.

But to me, parents managed to climb on the long distance train after they closed the doors of their own and left the farm they loved with what they think the best local foods we may like .

Parents form both sides will keep staying with their grandchild for some months and return back to their own lives, they also get some experience they have never had  before stitched into their memories..
I think the trick to let the Chinese serve the third generation is " to base it on the culture and social system"-the most convincing traditions have to take a great role in it.

I entered college school and shed some light on the modern knowledge on how to live in the city, I found out I was motivated by the designed society to get up to learn hard in school days and get change.

I sometimes feel I am frustrated and get very nervous in the run-up to the competition in the society, but we are formed to be like this.Anyway, life is life, it has to be stuck in a certain era.

In any case, oughtn't we be grateful to our upper generations?

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白的空间

白的空间
November 09
Beginning of the winter in 2008
It is a nice day in Shanghai and a little bit of cool, a lazy and short week end in the beginning of the winter in 2008.
I am here in the office to learn English though I am missing my little baby a little.
It is very happy that in the digital world I met somebody and began to talk to each other.
But in the afternoon, the silence is changing my feeling.
What happened to me?
I felt I was such kind of ego with contradiction, just like the silent office, nobody should work on weekends, but I am here to study English.
I have been in Shanghai for 7 years since April of 2002. I remembered at that time I was alone and feels alone just like I am now in the office, especially when the ventilation is blowing slightly from the screens from the ceiling. It is making me feel like I am living in a office of South Pole surrounded by the miles of miles snows. But I know the out side is so crowded.
My wife and I planned to live in different place, mostly could be in Australia for the other half of our lives or we don't know.
Anyway, we began to fine something new and step forward. We want to jump of the little box to see the world.
Runrun has no choice in this time, we will make decision for him, haha, we don't know he does like it or nor, but I see he likes the blue blue sea and the sky.
Wish god bless us.

Mama is going back to Tianjin

Tianjin is my hometown.
After two months helping me to take care of my son, mama is going back to her home and mama in law will take her place for some periods.
Human beings are migrating all the times. When someday they find a place to rest and easily take it as his/her own belongs. So a feeling of belongs happens, and the older the stronger.
Mama will never accept Shanghai to be her home anymore, she is afraid of being left in a strange place for good.
This is human nature.
While another nature I discovered is that the hometown of my heart resides in a place called mama town. When the moment I have to leave the town again, my heart alwayse feels upset and sour.
Mama and Papa have an apple fields. When apple flowers blossoms and bees sings very May, the happiest time comes to this old couple. Land is peasents' dependence for living, but when they are getting older, they cling to it as spirit need.

Ipod

My wife won a prize in a lottery of her on-line English Education School E-say.
She was so lucky to have this win, I felt very jealous of her luckiness. For a long time I thought I was lucker than she was, because I am not as good as she was is other aspect. However, now, good things all belong to her, I was so much frustrated by the unfairness.
I find out I am a little man with a little heart and nothing for good sometimes. Wow, what a cruel reality I am facing. What made me feeling comfortable is that the Ipod which was won by her was promised to be a gift to me. Happy man, what a thoughtful wife!
Life is full of happiness happens, yet the only thing you need to do to get it is the way you want to be or not.
Ipod has so many good usage while it is a kind of terminal devices for the net work. You can have too much resources on the net for musics or videos for free in Podcast and Itunes U. Surely I will extend my knewledge space by this little gray device and the love of my wife.
Thank you Jenny.

The Best Gift

I have been searching what is the meaning of life for a very long time in the darkness. Somebody said it was a stupid thing to question the meaning of life for life is given as it is.
I asked for it to the God and the end of the universe in my imagination. Sometimes I thought I felt so near to it and it was so true, but sometime I felt it was blur and hard to reach.
But my son, so near to me, tender, adorable and genuine, eagering for my hug and crying for Dady, is so touchable and growing fast.

He was born a smart boy and brought our little family a lot of fun. He fullfilled my life and my wife's life as well. I can forget all the unhappiness on the job when I with him, and I feel lost when I go home late outside. The natural feeling inside promotes my answering to my question.

As a man, in the endless universe, I think life is such a miracle and love is such a miracle of life. As a type of matter, we will last forever; as the complecated and most advanced matter, we are written in water. I am still searching for the meaning of the life, untill now, I can see the love.

I order to make this question clearer, I think I need to seperate it into several questions.

What is life? Then I have to ask, where is it life come from? when this is clear, I need to ask where is the life going to? What will it be in the future?

Morning Eggs

Grandma of my son always wants to save money for us. This Sunday morning, mother asked wife and her sister to buy cheep eggs which was designed to allure the old customers by the Carrefour locating Lianyang community. They came back with four plastic bags of eggs , 4o eggs or so in each, with broken ones inside and yellow liquid yolk can be seen. Wife complained about the hot weather and the long waiting line, for each cunstomer can only buy one bag once appearing in one line. They went out early this moring and came back at about 10:00. They save 0.5 rmb or so for each 500g, totally about 10 rmb. Well done!
Mother began to clean the bags and washing the eggs full of egg liquid at the their surfaces.
I got up late on weekends and son has playing around me for quite a while. I felt lazy and mother hurry me to get up and do some thing useful efficiently. Rain was playing with a PSP which is playing classic music when I had my breakfast. I had a bowl of noodle soup and some dumpling. When I want to go out and take my bag with me, Rain began to realize that I was leaving, he placed down the PSP on the bed and began to chasing for me and asking for hugging. His aunt follow us outside to the hall and son pushed the button of the elevators. Serveral acquaintance appeared, teasing Rain, and Rain pointed to the elevation and repeated " ti ti" in Chinese for the elevator. His aunt embraced him and entered into the elevator as soon as possible and I said good bye to them.

Son Is Addicted To Me

Before I leave to go the office in the morning and if my son is awake, it could be a big challange with patience and wisdom.
He is getting smarter and smarter.If he sees me wearing cloths, he will begin to alart; if I go out to do morning washing, he is listening; and if he hears the door shutting, he will burst into crying and will raise up from the bed. Some times he may not open his eyes and finish all his observation by listening. He mutters for hugging and outing with me.
The same scenario is applicable to my wife, even more. For in my son's kindom, Mom is the first citizen, Dad is the second, and others are the third or fourth class.
You have to cheat and abstract his attention to other things he may be interested in. Sometimes I just feel I am too cruel to leave the little life behind and just go ahead. But as a matter of fact that I am one of the breadwinner of the familiy, I have to do something rationally. Obviously I am a little bit sentimental and family centered.
From July 1, Shanghai is getting clearer and hotter by ending the endless wet weather called Meiyu Season. Though hot as it is, I feel better than the long humidity for I love the blue blue sky, the clear air and the bright sunshine.
Weekends are good, I will take you out to play, my little baby.

9:46 is late to go home

I feel a little bit satisfied and a little bit tired for I set up a little room for myself. I feel hungry and kind of numb at be back of my head. Wife called me twice and she began to doubt that I was chatting with some net friends but actually I have no net chatting friends at all.
Oh, my Godness, she is phoning me again now and I have to confess to her I made a blog and I am surprising her. She is commanding me to go home and for it is late she suggested me to take TAXI. And momie heated the dinner for me a long time ago and they are very lovely jiaozi.

First Thing of the First

This is the first day for me, a 33 year old man who has a 21 months son Rain and his lovely mother Jenny, to blog on the web.
Do you know what I feel?
I am still sitting in the meeting room with the just finished work , silence to calm, I feels tired and becoming a little bit relaxed after meditating for 15 munites.

At 6:00, I try to call my nephew Yaoyao, but my sister got the call and told me that he is on the way back from his grandpa, my dad, with his aunt, my youger sister, and her son, another nephew Chenchen.

I asked her if she felt better from diabetes, she just told me no big deal and felt not too bad. I knew she lied to me and would not like my mother to know that she is getting worse.I felt she was a little bit tired. Anyway, she has a kind and strong mind but I can never tell 100% what she is thinking. She told me she found a batch buyer for dad's early mature apples, that could saved time for him to dogwatch the apple trees and do some farmer works. Although the price would be lower than in the market, but it will be good for father. She also told my father's litter complaints about the price, but it is better that the old man to sell them on the village market in person and leave the apple trees alone.

I called mother who is cooking dinner for us with my wife's third sister in my apartment in Pudong. She was busy doing thing and quickly dropped the line.

Here now, after writing things above, I feel totally calm down and the whole office is so queit because every body went for weekend as soon as possible execpt few srange guys like I am.

What kind of blog I am going to write? I still have no idea. But there is one thing is sure, I will follow my life and feelings.